- Years old:
- My sexual orientation:
- What is my favourite music:
- Other hobbies:
- I like looking after pets
They have loved and lost, been alone and grown. What if they have moved on you might ask? You feel hurt, you feel like this person must be better than you, you start to tear yourself apart piece by piece. Let me stop your self-abuse right now.
You can change your city from here. We serve personalized stories based on the selected city. Kareena Kapoor Khan just wore an anarkali similar to one worn by Anushka Sharma during her pregnancy. Refrain from posting comments that are obscene, defamatory or inflammatory, and do not indulge in personal attacks, name calling or inciting hatred against any community. Help us delete comments that do not follow these guidelines by marking them offensive. Let's work together to keep the conversation civil. A break-up can teach a person a lot about love and relationship, and it does not necessarily have to be tragic always.
And when I ended my five-year-long relationship with my boyfriend for unreconciled differences, I thought I would never be able to get over it.
Honestly, it did hurt a lot but as they say, time is a great healer. My life slowly limped back to normal. And today, I can proudly say that the break-up taught me a lot about love and relationship. When you are in a relationship or dating a person, you tend to ignore all the flaws of your partner.
And I was no different. I was so deeply in love with my boyfriend that I believed in only his good qualities. But after the break-up, I realised how flawed my concept of Mr. Right was. When I saw the cracks appearing in our relationship, I tried my best to repair those. I always dreamt of a brighter tomorrow when the present turned dark.
It took me almost two years to realise that the relationship would not work and we two were slowly drifting apart. I refused to accept the reality and ended up paying a big price—my mental health and peace of mind. I wish I had known that there is no shame in accepting that a relationship is not working.
But the break-up taught me this valuable lesson. We all believe that for a relationship to survive for long, both the partners need to be compatible. And I was happy to have found a partner who was just like me—we both had similar tastes in food, music, books and everything. But unfortunately, our personalities were totally different.
I was an introvert while he was an extrovert. He had anger issues while I rarely had any outbursts. Sometimes, compatibility is not the only factor to decide the strength of a relationship. When you are in a relationship you can never think of being attracted to another person. But that is not the case always.
There were certain incidents during the course of our relationship, which I believe, I should have handled better.
Once I found my boyfriend admiring one of his female colleagues and that really made me angry. We even fought over that issue. But it took me a long time after we parted ways to accept that a person can feel attracted to a third person even after being in a stable relationship. Attraction and admiration do not always point towards an affair. Reacting strongly or objecting to such feelings can have an adverse effect on the relationship and both the partners. We are a strange generation. We demand equality in the workplace and life. And at the same time, we also have campaigns for women demanding period leave in office.
Similarly, couples too want to have equal roles in a relationship. But that is not always possible. Sometimes, we have to know what we can do and what we cannot, and it takes a lot of strength to accept our weakness. I wish I had known that when I was in a relationship. A weekly guide to the biggest developments in health, medicine and wellbeing delivered to your inbox.
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