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There you are, tumbling through the front door with your date like a scene out of a romantic comedy. It's pretty obvious you're about to hook up for the first timeand you feel all types of ways. Of course.
Keeping your feelings out of it is one of the cardinal rules of casual situations, but love making is intimate and sometimes you realize you want more. Sometimes it works out and you end up as more; other times, not so well. Do you actually have a thing for him or have you just fallen for how well he treats you in bed?
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Make sure you actually care about him and not just his body. Does he seem to have feelings for you? This is a hard one, but you should be able to notice subtle changes in how he acts. The more involved he seems to be with you, the more likely he is to have feelings for you. Mention wanting to date someone else. See how he reacts. Is he jealous?
Does he try to talk you out of it? Is he supportive, but acts kind of strange? The more often you hook up with the same person, the better chance you have at falling for them.
See how deep your feelings are by giving yourself some space from him. Do you miss him?
Does he miss you? Ask him how he feels. Save this conversation for when you both have your clothes on.
You need him focused on something other than your body. It might seem like the most awkward conversation of your life, but it has to be done. Attempt a real date. Ask him out on a date. Be realistic.
Prepare yourself for the fact that he might never want more. There are plenty of other guys out there. You deserve better. It takes time, commitment and energy. If he gives you a no or maybe, end things then and there. Take a deep breath and see how he feels.
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