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  • Years old:
  • 42
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  • I'm malaysian
  • Sex:
  • My sex is fem
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  • In my spare time I love:
  • Singing
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His voice was deep and his pants rode low, sitting on his hips hips I would soon know well, in the biblical sense. I also currently have a body-positive partner who unapologetically adores me with a passion and humility that warms my heart every single day. Derek is my neighbor, though we met online. Calling myself a BBW is new to me.

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Whether meeting people organically or online, I always felt that I was on the outside looking in. Like I was watching other people have seemingly successful, fruitful and fun relationships, while I sat at home swiping the night away.

And as a fat, Black woman, I often felt that my physicality was the culprit. I am statistically at a disadvantage when it comes to being successful on dating apps.

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This, unfortunately, comes with the territory for me and other individuals who share the same identity. After reading all the statistics and growing tired of the inappropriate comments, I felt that it was time to start from scratch and rebrand myself.

Although I have struggled with my identity — particularly my weight — in the past, I feel empowered, beautiful and desirable when I look in the mirror.

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I set aside time to take more conservative pictures in clothing that was less revealing for my profiles, hoping to come across as more accomplished and stave off those crude messages. But they would flood in all over again, followed by self-doubt.

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I would remove myself from apps for a period of time before slowly rebuilding a new profile with the false hope that creating a new persona would bring on positive responses. Wash, rinse, repeat. With it always came the familiar feelings of being unwanted and incapable of being in love.

I spent a lot of time reading online dating tips and tricks, trying to find new ways to manifest my desire for a serious relationship. Hell, I even hired a plus-size dating coach to assist me in my quest for love, who felt that my image was too casual and recommended some clothing pieces that I would never wear.

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Situations I enter with prospective partners always start off as promising but go nowhere fast, and end with me being ghosted after a few casual encounters. My partner had his own insecurities with his weight and manhood, and this manifested in him trying to get me to lose weight with him and hold myself able by sending him pictures of every meal that I ate. I was tired of dealing with dating toxicity, and moreover, I was tired of feeling unwanted and being the saviour of my partners. Lots of them always seemed to have an excuse, or be apprehensive, when it came to scheduling an actual date.

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I continued to entertain a cycle of putting my pseudo best self forward, only to experience those same situations that I was trying to avoid. Fed up with the lack of inclusivity on dating apps that compounded this, I wanted to save myself, heal from past wounds and take on a new attitude on love. So today, I choose myself.

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In the beginning, prioritising me was a very scary process. Loneliness and insecurity crept in, and I continuously questioned how my love life would be different if I were a different size. But I have turned my situation around by returning to my creative roots. I traded swipes for writing screenplays and Tinder for therapy.

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I found myself in graphic de and editorial writing, spaces where I could freely and express myself. In the meantime, I have decided to focus on myself and make lasting connections that are healthy and meaningful. Through our discussions I have met several people that share the same sentiments as I do. I also used my frustration with dating to create a podcast where I not only give myself the space to talk about my struggles as a fat, Black woman, but also a safe communal platform for other fat-identifying folx to speak freely about topics surrounding their representation — or misrepresentation.

Cheyenne is the creator of the award-winning Weighted Words Podcast. If you have a love story to share, rosy.

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