- How old am I:
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Have you ever heard someone say this? Maybe you have said it yourself after a period of unfortunate misses in the dating scene. Alvean and Doug talk about the whys and the whos that we encounter while looking for our ideal mate and how we can sometimes sabotage ourselves along the way.
The first pink anon response here is exactly what I'm talking about. If a woman thinks men are only interested in looks, she is only talking about the bananas. I'm talking about good men here; the men referred to as avocados in the video. Most women today simply have no idea what those avocados actually want.
If they think it's what the bananas want, they will be mislead and will never be a good woman. Well, sort of but it's still so damn true. I can clearly see your position friend, where you aren't caring about it, I know it only too well because I am on my way there. Because for me I'd like to have either an honest, working and healthy relationship or no relationship at all and I wouldn't settle for less than that.
Since quality women are too few, I can't really get disappointed at it either since it's the way life works. Quality ladies are much like a fairy tale, a bedtime story to make you feel comfortable and a nice story to hear. In other words: They do not exist well, they do but they are very rare and hard to find. So it's best getting used to it.
Unit1 remember that nothing is permanent, nothing we ever gained is permanently ours no matter what it's going to be a loss, but just embrace and live for the moment while we can for as long as we can. Even if you were able to find that quality lady what are the odds you two will be together forever?
Things can change and people change, thus nothing is exactly permanent or forever. You might even change your mind about them or they might change their mind about you.
But if you did end up with one, embrace and enjoy whatever time you have with her, as I already said no guarantees it will be forever. If you have somebody, you'll always have somebody to lose. Nothing is granted my friend! And the cold void and dark emptiness keeps coming back and coming back again and again.
There may be little point in fighting it but ultimately it is part of life. Yes, things can change, things can stay the same way within a certain timespan. Nothing lasts forever indeed, so it would be wise to make most of all things and make it last.
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Things come and things go. Unit1 same for people and places, they come and go too. Want a plot twist? Unit1 yup. Lots of Delusions.
Where have all the good men gone?: gender differences in marriageability
This is a search that will require years of searching : I want a quality lady. But not many women are that. It's BS in it's finest form. If you are looking to impress the bananas and not the avocados, then yes, that's what counts. Ironically, I've never seen an ugly guy with an attractive woman.
I've always seen an ugly girl with an attractive man. Funny that is. What makes me sick is how women care for nothing besides looks money status. No, women care for all these things in moderation. But, please, I encourage men to care for more besides looks. It might actually make women focus on more than just beauty, and instead make something of themselves. No, women don't care. Why do you think women who earn more are less likely to get married?
Because all of them hold out for a guy who makes more then them. Why do you think women are constantly talking about how they won't date a guy shorter then them?
Its not because they care about character. Its not because they cared about there husbands or families, they saw them as disposable. Why do you think study after study has shown that women preffer a man with money then a man without? How is that not having high standards? They did another study showing that women rated men higher when they happened to earn more. They even found that looks mattered almost as much to women as to men, but money mattered even more.
That women sleep around and they don't like that, that women are not nurturing or kind or anything else like that i. So yeah, men like attractive women but they also like good traits in women when they want a relationship anyway. Meanwhile women just want a guy who is good lookin rich and successful and as this post pointed out they really don't care about the guys character they will definitely go for a guy who is a terrible person if he is good looking and rich enough.
So yeah your wrong.
Sure some women are decent people, but in our society women not only get away with but are rewarded for being shallow and selfish so they are rare now a days. Of course that is not actually true! That is just an excuse that people utter when they are frustrated with their recent experiences. You asked, "Are there any good women left?
I watched this video and it got me thinking. Have you watched this video?
I watched the video. And the point the girl makes is a point that I have repeatedly made on this site in replies. If you consistently have the same experience with different members of the opposite sex, you can blame the opposite sex if you want, but the real reason probably relates to something that you are doing.
It probably has something to do with the kind of guys the girl is selecting, messages she is sending during the first dates, etc. You are doing something wring when you are looking: looking in the wrong places, not staying conscious of your criteria, getting distracted by the attractive packaging and not paying attention to what's inside the package, etc. Which is why I am still single. I am broke and was always broke. No woman wants a broke guy, right?
But recently I got a job at least. Still can't show off any money, that would be the stupidest thing to do. Why would she start dating a guy who could never support a family?
Are there any good men left?
So that's where their hypergamous instincts kick in and become gold diggers. Roger that!
No, that does not mean that they are gold diggers. If you want to maintain such a jaded, negative view of women, you have the freedom to do that, but it will likely not serve you well. Nah, I was just releasing some of my bitterness, that should have been gone long ago. I'd much like to befriend women because women are awesome!
She can only prove herself when she is still around you when times hit hard or when she disappears as does your money. Then you will find out if she's a keeper or a gold digging traitor. Yes, anyone can have fun with you when times are good. How they respond when times are not good. Looks like you have lost her I'm sorry, but I disagree.
I knew someone will say that to me lol I know these days that not always the case but deeply rooted in the instincts is that the guy should be able to provide for the family and that is why women do not search for their ideal match in jobless people. That is nonsense. Although I believe, that women in their 30s are more easier to date? Okay cool, so actually there are guys who would also reject girls who are taller than them. Anything could be.
Where are the good women? are there any good women left?
It could even be, that the quality ladies got kidnapped by an alien invasion. Actually this is me right now: i3. I dunno, can you at least hold my feels for a moment? It will mean quite something to me if you could borrow my feels. I have built my mentality to specifically reject these feels lol so no can do. And women are in love with your wallet, your bankyour car and your house. Gotta hide these if you have them if you don't want the gol dygors. Unit1 Master.
I watched this and then I asked myself the reversed variant of that question.