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Some paedophiles say they would never abuse children.
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But what support is there for people like this and how should society treat them to prevent abuse happening? Adam messaged a few days before we were due to meet for the first time. I'll let you know what colour top i'm wearing or something so you can recognise me.
Although I'll just be the creepy looking guy :D lol. It was the kind of place that would be packed full of people enjoying two-for-one cocktails on Saturday nights, but Adam just wanted tap water. In his early 20s, but he could pass for younger.
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Slight and fresh-faced. Brown hair, clear skin and softly spoken.
Not "creepy looking" at all. He describes himself as "normal" and says he likes to hang out with friends, go travelling and play video games. On the surface, it's hard to argue with his self-description.
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He didn't want us to use that, though he insists he's never done anything illegal. That term is widely used today. It's used interchangeably with child sex abuser by the public - you can find it in many news reports describing the actions of molesters. But academics use the term differently. In the DSM-5, the manual issued by the American Psychiatric Association, and used by psychiatrists across the world, paedophilia is listed as a "paraphilic disorder".
Effectively, it is defined as a form of mental health condition where an adult has a primary sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children. It doesn't mean that they have abused children, and in fact, psychiatrists and criminologists believe that not all child abusers are paedophiles. Many are motivated by a desire for power or control.
People like Adam refer to themselves as "anti-contact" paedophiles. They recognise their own attraction to children but understand that is wrong to abuse them. Adam first realised that there was something different about him when he was His friends suddenly started talking about girls and he just wasn't interested.
He couldn't reveal the truth. He didn't think about girls at all, but about boys who were younger than him. At that stage, the age gap wasn't dramatic, just a few years.
Adam spent the next few years doing what almost every teenager does - trying to fit in. When he describes this period, his words come out in a rush. I tried to hide it, just tried to ignore it, pretend it wasn't there, pretend I was normal, concentrate on my schoolwork, concentrate on playing football.
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Deciding to lie, he pretended to like a girl in his class. Adam knew enough to pick someone who was considered pretty. As he was so shy, no-one really questioned why he didn't ever ask her or anybody else on a date. But Adam wasn't yet at a point where he thought of himself as a paedophile. I thought paedophiles were old men who looked at children. This has elements of truth in it.
The APA says only people aged 16 or older can be classified as paedophiles. There must also be an age gap of five years or more between the subject and the children they are attracted to. Prof Derek Perkins is a consultant forensic psychologist and has set up treatment programmes for sexual offenders.
It's a condition in the same way that someone might have depression or ADHD. By the time Adam got to 17, he'd spent four years trying to ignore his feelings about children.
Realising this wasn't something he would grow out of, he decided to try to "solve it". When he talks about this time in his life, the word he uses most is "scared". The other word that comes back is "normal".
He repeats it as he explains that he had always wanted to have a wife and children one day. But something made him realise this just wasn't possible. My life would be over. There's a growing body of research into young paedophiles like him, including those who have never been through the legal system.
People like Adam have started to form online forums and chat groups where they discuss their struggle. Many of them, including Adam, dislike the word "paedophile" because of the way the media uses it interchangeably with "child rapist" or "child abuser".
The young paedophiles who say they don’t abuse children
Instead, he refers to himself as an "MAP", which stands for "minor-attracted person". Adam seems likeable on the surface. It would be easy to assume he is merely manipulative, trying to project a nice-guy image. I can't speak to his innermost motivation, but I don't think that's the case. When we first met, I asked him to show me photo ID to prove his real name and age.
The picture was a few years old, and he had a dodgy haircut.
He was able to tease himself for how outdated it looked. He is invariably polite and keen to highlight his intelligence. He mentions that he went to a good university and talks about compliments from his boss. But it's clear he is not a naturally confident person and doesn't find it comfortable speaking to a journalist.
He even gets nervous about dealing with public transport. I should say now I am very introverted etc, so at least half the problem isn't me actually trusting you, it's me actually having the courage to meet a stranger to talk to.
Was he ever tempted to act on his attraction during puberty? Even if I wasn't a paedophile.
Adam wants to speak to out, he says, because he wants to protect children. He explains that he gets "so upset" when he sees stories about child abuse on the news: "I'm doing this so that some people will stop that. Adam is very firm on this point. He says he has never abusedeither online or in person. He doesn't even wait until the end of the question before replying emphatically: "I would never. I'd never do that.
There's not an ounce of hesitation. He sits upright and doesn't slouch or fidget. He says he would kill himself before hurting. And yet when he is asked about the precise nature of his attraction, he starts to become uncomfortable.
He squirms, stammers and clams up. He can't get the words out and the conversation moves on. He admits to having "crushes" on young boys but he says he works hard to distract himself. In a message, Adam explains his "age of attraction". Sorry for not being able to answer when you asked the ages, it's something I was dreading you asking … I hope you understand.
My aoa isbut the emotional side is a lot stronger than the physical side with the lower ages. By this stage, I had built up a relationship with him. He had opened up about the isolation of his teenage years and his firm resolve to never abuse children.