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The experience highlights just how our world has been engulfed by social media and how our technology has become a vital organ of our being. And it's happened so fast. Facebook is not quite 10 years old, Twitter is younger still.
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Like anything hurtling us forward at breakneck speed, the advancements are great, and so are the dangers. For every Arab Spring or political movement using social media to foment change, there may also be campaigns of abuse and hate. Our devices change not only what we do but also who we are. It's now been seen 25 million times —. And that third promise actually is terribly important because I believe that the capacity for solitude is terribly important to develop.
I even believe that if you don't teach your children to be alone, they'll only know how to be lonely. And by not developing this capacity for solitude, we're not doing our children a favor. SHERRY TURKLE : Well, there are many things that we're doing that are having bad effects on our kids because we're really not looking at the implications of immersing ourselves in mobile technology to the degree that we have.
And what it's doing to, not just our children, but to our family lives, to our social life, to our political life. And he needed to go to something that was more stimulating. And so he went to a game. And what that showed is that what we're going to is something that revs us up and puts us, we know, neurochemically in a state where we're less able to come back and be part of the give and take of human conversation. Haven't we adults all through history always said that this is how the I'm saying there are certain ways we're using it that are not taking of how misusing it, overusing it, can really threaten things that we care about.
It's a question of technological affordance and human vulnerability.
This is a technology to which we are particularly vulnerable in certain ways. A mother adores being with her children. And yet with this technology, she is so vulnerable to the stimulation of knowing what the next message is on Adult want nsa Moyers cell phone, that when she picks her kid up at school and the kid comes into the car, this is the gesture she makes to her.
Let me just get this one message. And does not make eye contact with the child as the child comes in. It's the desire to look at that one last message that causes her to go like that to her. Now that's not saying there's anything wrong with a cell phone. It's saying that we are so vulnerable to the seduction of who wants to reach us, what sweetness is coming through the phone, that we're really at a point where we turn away from our.
People talk to me about, you know, not being able to tolerate not knowing what that new thing that's coming in on the phone is. I mean, kids sit in class now and they, you know, the phone is in the bag or the phone is on the floor, and they check regularly what new texts are coming in.
Segment: heidi boghosian on spying and civil liberties
Well, I had a thing in class where the kids, I was teaching a class on memoir at MIT, and it was about these kids' fantastic stories about their lives. And a group of the class came to me and said, "You know, we're texting in class. And, you know, we feel bad because the rest of the kids, I mean, they're talking about their lives.
They could not say no to the feeling that somebody wanted them. Somebody was reaching out to them. The neurochemical hit of constant connection is what we are -- is what we have now. There's really no such thing as multitasking. Studies show decisively that your behavior, your performance degrades for every new task you multitask.
So when you add a new task, your performance degrades in all of the tasks you're doing. But there's a catch. You think you're doing better in each of the tasks you're doing. So multitasking, which we hyped and hyped as kind of-- this is what this technology allowed for us, is actually the first thing that we need to address in order to do serious work. You thought all of this technology was truly promising.
Segment: sherry turkle on being alone together
And people were experimenting with gender with, you know, the shy would be less shy, and people, as I studied them online, were really using online identity to work through questions of kind of experimenting using the online world as a sort of identity workshop to play with questions of kind of experimenting, using the online world as a sort of identity workshop, to play with questions of who they were and to experiment with being a little bit different.
And I thought that was very exciting. What I did not see, call me not prescient, was that my idea of how we would be thinking about identity had a model of a person at a computer playing with identity, and then after you played with your identity at the computer, then you would get up from your computer, having experimented with identity, and you would go out to the world, into the world, and you would live your life having learned these lessons from your online identity. When the book was written, I looked around me, and there were already people in my environment using computers that they called the "wearable computers.
They had antennae, they had keyboards in their pockets, they had Adult want nsa Moyers that were their screens, and they were wearing the web on them. In other words, they looked very science fiction. They basically had a portable phone. They were-- they could be They could be on the web all the time.
And that meant once you had this device with you all the time, you didn't have this division of time at the computer or not with the computer.
You had this always on, always-on-you device, and you had the possibility of being always, always in this world of the web. I ask that seriously because, you know Because people then, the kids in my class who were looking down at their phones through the entire lecture included, the people in church who text during services, who text during funerals included, everyone is always having their attention divided between the world of the people we're with and this other reality. We now walk around with our he down.
I walked over here this morning, everybody is like this. There's even a New Yorker cover I think about a family, you know, who are at the beach, and their he are in their phones.
I mean, we are always equally in the world of the machine, in the world that's in the phone and in the rest of the world. If I came into this conversation and just put my iPhone down and we started to talk, what we would discuss in this conversation would radically change. And that changes what people will talk about, the amount of investment they'll make in the conversation, the nature of the degree of emotional content they will put into a conversation.
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The fact that we're constantly at I went to a dinner of a group of young people, constant, constant interruption. Everybody has a phone, phones are going off constantly, the average teenage girl is interrupted once every four or five minutes by an incoming or an outgoing text.
So five people out to dinner, I mean, it was a constant interruption.
And I'll say to them, "How do you feel about the interruptions? Things have gotten so bad that the culture is starting to present things that used to be dystopian as utopian. And my best example is dinner.
There's an ad for Facebook which-- a dinner, a typical Norman Rockwell dinner, the type you were evoking. Big family, and extended family is at dinner. And you know this is going to be good, because dinner is the thing that we all know protects against juvenile delinquency, people stay in school if they have dinner with their families.
It protects against, you know, everything bad and it encourages everything good in the growing up as. So we know this is going to be good. And this family is having dinner. And then all of a sudden, one of the members of the family, let's call her "Aunty," starts to get boring.
And from her phone comes out snowball fights and football games and ballet things, all the things that are on her phone come out of her phone. And she's not at the dinner anymore. She's into this other world of Facebook, all the "boring bits" are gone, Facebook and all the things that are on her Facebook are now at the dinner, on the table. She's surrounded by this other world. She's smiling, she's happy. And so, I mean, essentially Facebook has taken out an ad against conversation at family dinner.